How to Help Others

We've learned not to let friends drive drunk. We've learned to help stop crimes. We must refuse to accept the deadly myth that we must "mind our own business," and no longer turn our heads when domestic violence is happening in our home, our family, or our neighborhood. Domestic Violence must be treated for what is - a crime. How can you approach a friend in trouble?

If you think a person is being abused:

If an assault is occurring, call 911.
Take the time to listen, and believe what your friend says.
Don't downplay the danger.
Don't judge or criticize your friend's choices.
Give emotional support.
Offer to help with child care or transportation.
Express concern for your friend's safety.
Let your friend know about agencies that can help.

If you think a person is being abusive:

Tell them you feel uncomfortable when they insult or putdown their spouse or partner.

Tell them that their behavior disturbs you.

Tell them you care about them and urge them to contact a batterer treatment agency. Don't agree with any statements that suggest their partner brought on the abuse. Remember, there's no excuse for domestic violence.

Getting out of an abusive relationship can take time.

Stick by your friend and don't expect changes overnight.